I close my blinds.

On: Pete Yorn - Ice Age

I've been known for overthinking too much. It used to be worse though, I had to dissect every word and then rethink the situation and then look for other possibilites and alternatives. Now I'm not like that so much.

I've been thinking a lot about limits though, and how hard it can be for me sometimes to set them. If you think about it, it's not supposed to be difficult or hard, limits are all about self

respect and how far you are willing to let people go when it comes to you, to your territorry. Limits are about how much you are willing to show, to share and to expose.

Some people have no trouble at all setting them, it's normal and it's not a big deal. Some people have got no limits at all, people cross the line all the time, in fact, the line is a dot to them, it's like it's not even there.

Most people though, when having their limits cross, twist things around. It's quite simple, people go as far as you let them. Taking the blame though, that'a bitch. We tend to blame others for must things that go wrong, usually others were nothing but supporting actors in a plot you helped building, even though you may not be aware of most of the time. I think if you're prepared to accept that a whole bunch of things happen to you are at least partially your fault, then you've come a long way.

Ok, drifting again! My point is I'm lousy with limits. I'm naive, I always expect the best from people even though I've got this little voice inside of me who's constantly right and whenever it demands limits from me, I pretend I can't hear. I've always been outstanding when it comes to having insights. Anyway.. The reason why I've been thinking about limits is because of the whole travel situation and having to deal with that. I decided that it can be simple, since I believe so much in the power of dialogue, in the power of putting all your card on the table and getting it all out of the woods and sorted out, maybe I should actually try that. I have got to be able to stand up for myself, who else can do that but me? I gotta let her know what I'm about, my likes and dislikes and what she can and should expect from me.

This whole thing reminded me from my patients...